Whenever I’m so moved, I try to share as much of myself as I can for the betterment of others. That’s not something I’m saying to hype myself up to my 5-10 subscribers. I over share in an attempt to prevent someone, anyone from making the same mistakes I did. The one area where I excel at this is relationships; my Husband and I have been married for almost three years and we’ve known each other for 13 years. Our relationship hasn’t always been smooth, we’ve definitely come a long way but we’ve also grown up with each other. This puts me at an advantage I think because we matured together and started realizing / getting the same lessons about life and the world around the same time. It allowed us the ability to examine ourselves, each other and our relationship separately and together.
That was just the back ground; let’s get to why I’m even writing a blog titled “Lessons in Love”. Tonight I was inspired to tweet my conclusions to conversations my Husband and I have been coming back to over the past few weeks about sexism and how that affects both genders negatively. This is something we’ve always discussed openly but in particular what we agreed to do when we’re discussing a sexist instance/thing we would both say how that situation impacts our gender negatively and then discuss. So, we would be getting our feelings out in a safe way and give each other an opportunity to see it from a different perspective.
So. The topic we were discussing is “Men being described as they were a woman, for doing something that’s human to do versus what women do” and the particular instance is why are men “bitches” for having feelings, exhibiting vulnerability and wanting to discuss it. Having feelings is something that most people have (mental illness, disease and other situations notwithstanding). Why does society think it’s okay to continue to demonize men for having feelings? Women take part in this too, which is even more baffling to me.
Lesson 1. Men have feelings.
Repeat it. Think on it. Pray on it. Whatever you need to do to start seeing men as human beings and not these cold stone killers that never felt warmth a day in their life. Your man, you Daddy, your brother, your friend.
Let that sink in.