What constitutes nice? and why is that always a trait that people say they are looking for? Most people don’t want nice, they want someone with a dramatic flair or at least someone who will push back when they are backed up against a wall. So why the term; nice?
The concept of a nice girl is always the same; she cooks, she cleans, she keeps up a home and is good to her man but what about herself? Should she look a certain way or is being nice/good a reflective of your domestic capabilities entirely? I know of girls that are nice but they get played because they are two nice then they become a bitch and then they get dogged even harder for being a bitch. It’s a cycle.
And it works both ways. The saying is that nice guys finish last and again what is a nice guy; it’s all about actions versus the personality/character/value traits. Nice guys open doors, they buy you jewelry, they pick up the phone when you call them in the middle of the night but they never get any play because you’re the perfect girl for them but you’re stuck in a relationship with an asshole who you think you can change if you love him hard enough. Nice guy gets tired of seeing the asshole win and becomes the bitter asshole…he finds a nice girl and the cycle from paragraph two starts all over again.
So we’ve established that it’s a cycle…its like an alcoholic admitting that they do have a drinking problem.
Nice Guy / Nice Girl 12 step program?